Healing. Just the sound of the word touches and moves my heart and stirs so many precious memories. This is the work that I have dedicated my life to. Encouraging, supporting, inspiring healing, recovery, wholeness, transformation, transcendence, re-turning to, and re-remembering our innate Holiness. This is where I have had the blessing of witnessing miracles again and again. The power of Unconditional Love, Acceptance and Respect knows no limits. This is the realm of “NAMASTE,” the Sanskrit word that is translated as, “The Divine within me, greets the Divine within you.” When we have the sacred honor of being able to look into the eyes of a newborn baby, for a priceless moment, we touch the miracle of The Life Force of Creation itself. This moment can’t help but take our breath away at the awe of this timeless never-to-be-forgotten experience. The Spiritual Law of “As Above, So Below” is right before our eyes. Time holds still, and we are a part of Heaven and Earth As One, through the miracle of this brand new life that has come to bless us here on earth.
I know for me, one of the heart-tugging feelings is witnessing the innocence, the purity, the vulnerability, the trust of this baby. Breathtaking. As a parent, there is such an immense longing to be able to protect this precious infant from the “cold, cruel, outside” world of life here on earth, which will wound and take away that innocence.
Yet, at the same time of that longing, is the heartbreaking reality of knowing that no matter how strong that desire as the parent may be, it will be impossible to fulfill that wish, no matter how hard one tries for two reasons. One that is not the reality of our world at this time. Second, we are all wounded human beings, doing the very best we can, but we each are far from perfection. Our human ego, personality side, takes over, and the desire for perfection from our very human selves becomes an impossible dream. But the hope, the desire is there, nonetheless.
Slowly but surely, life happens. The wounds occur, no matter how hard we try. We all make mistakes. We all are learning. We all are on this human journey called life. The heart starts to protect and close off. The sense of safety starts to have holes in it. The fears start to move in. We begin to see life through the very human lens and take things personally.
Even the luckiest get hurt from outside, even when the immediate environment may be the safest and most loving possible. The best hope is to build a foundation for that child, that is, “though not perfect,” is “good enough,” that can withstand, bear, integrate the outside wounds, heartaches, losses, traumas that life can bring. In this foundation, the child can eventually continue forward with life, with new wisdom, new strength, and a deeper understanding. Where the soul qualities of the “fruits of the spirit” grow. Galatians 5: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.”
In addition to our humanness, even the best of parents, for no fault of their own, are the “victims of victims of victims,” coming down the seven generations of wounds and traumas stored in the cells of the body. Each generation IS doing the best it knows how to do. And each generation tends to do better than the generation before it. We need to remember that. Looking back with this context can help us see through the eyes of compassion, and eventually, forgiveness can become possible. Note: forgiveness is not saying it was ok; it is letting go of holding the poison, toxic energy of hate, and revenge from your own body. It is a sacred gift to yourself, made possible by your Higher Self.
The parents who have been victims themselves of trauma and abuse can, unfortunately, misuse their power on the powerless, heartbreakingly passing on that abuse to their children, the ultimate betrayal from within the family, which is meant to be a safe place. In this case, instead of parents being the protectors, they can be the perpetrators, and the child’s inherent right to safety is violated from within the family unit.
With my 40 years of counseling work, in numerous settings including the jail, the hospital psychiatric/ behavioral health programs, drug/alcohol addiction recovery programs, facilitating sexual abuse groups, facilitating groups to prevent passing on child abuse, along with 40 yrs of private practice work, I, unfortunately, have witnessed and worked with this sad truth over and over.
I also want to say, this generational “passing on” CAN be stopped if a person wants to. With the desire, willingness, awareness, and counseling support, patterns can be broken, change can occur, and new healthy legacies created. I know this to be true. Some of the very best parenting I have seen can come from parents who endured and survived horrendous abuse. Some of them are the most determined people I have ever worked with, “to do it differently,” and create for their children a loving and safe environment to grow up in. These parents, rather than parenting on “auto-pilot,” just passing on what they received, learn to parent with very conscious, intentional awareness from their mind, making different choices from their Higher Authentic Selves.
So, our journey, for each of us, is to restore our Wholeness, our trust, our faith, our unconditional self-love, to see ourselves first as our Soul. For the human being can be hurt, but the True Self, the Authentic Self, our Soul remains whole throughout our life.
Healing is the journey back to that Deeper Truth, where we can stand firm in that KNOWING, integrating ourselves back into Wholeness. Is it easy? No. Is it possible, YES. I know this for a fact.
I have had the blessing of witnessing this healing back into Wholeness, with my own eyes, heart, mind, Soul over and over again, with the lives I have been so honored to work with on this healing journey. With God’s grace, all things are possible. Grace is the realm of miracles. This is where forgiveness lives. This is where resiliency lives. This is where inspiration lives. You do not make this journey of healing alone. The Unseen Beings, including your Guardian Angels, are always with you, cheering and encouraging you onward, seeing and reclaiming your original birthright. Transformation and transcending are real. You can recover and become an empowered person filled with love and creativity, gifting the world with your unique gifts and presence. All it takes to begin is a willingness on your part and taking responsibility for being the author of your own Sacred Journey Story.
We are at a time in history where we are each healing our ancestor’s stories as well as our own, as far back as 19 generations are what I have been told.
Healing is Sacred Work, and whether we know it or not, we do not work alone. Call on the Higher Beings for help. They must honor free will and cannot help until and unless called upon. ~ Caterina
Live Tranquilly in God
Patience really means confidence in God, knowing that God’s angels have you in their care. God, the Great Spirit, is all around you and in you and is working out a wise and beautiful purpose in your Soul. Do not live with the feeling that you must get over the ground as quickly as possible to reach a certain point. Just live every moment, every hour, every day, tranquility in the protective love of God, taking the hours as they come and doing one thing at a time, QUIETLY.
~White Eagle, The Quiet Mind book